Helping Church Girls Quiet Anxiety, Respect their Humanity &
Heal Religious Trauma
Hi, I’m Ayo - welcome!
I'm an Anxiety & Trauma Therapist for women healing from religious trauma — the ones who grew up in church, did all the “right” things, and are now trying to figure out who they truly are beyond the roles they had to play.
Often a major life event, like a divorce, death or church split provides an opening for them to deconstruct or re-evaluate their beliefs. But it also leaves them feeling lost, like they don’t quite fit in anywhere anymore. They are too questioning for church and yet somehow too Christian for deconstruction spaces.
I help them reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and their own inner knowing so they can heal. And if they choose to; they find a faith or spiritual life that feels expansive, not rigid, stifling or fear-based.
You too deserve to feel seen, supported, and authentically you - and you absolutely don’t have to do it alone.
Areas of Support Include
Anxiety and Religious OCD
People-Pleasing
Self-Criticism and Perfectionism
Grief and Loss
Stress and Burnout
Relationship Challenges
Navigating Cultural or Faith-Based Expectations
Faith Deconstruction
Spiritual/Religious Trauma
Identity and Self-Discovery
A Special Focus: Recovering Church Girls
While I work with clients from many walks of life, I have a particular passion for supporting “recovering Church Girls”. This is the phrase I use to describe the brave women who are unlearning the unhelpful things they were taught about God and exploring what life can look like beyond fear-based faith & emotional suppression.
They have always been the responsible, dependable ones, carrying the weight of expectations at home, work, and in their church communities. But they haven’t always received the same level of support they have given to others. They are often experiencing anxiety and burnout - but this is invisible to those around them who can only see them as “strong” and “capable”.
Playing this role can leave you feeling overwhelmed and isolated, with little capacity for your own needs or identity. I understand the unique challenges this can bring, both personally and professionally. I provide a compassionate and understanding space where you can explore what it means to prioritise yourself, set boundaries, and reclaim your identity outside of the responsibilities you’ve carried for so long.
Therapy in this area can help you to:
Set boundaries and manage feelings of guilt
Stop performing the version of yourself that you think others want and re-connect with the real you
Unlearn patterns of overwork and shame driven self-sacrifice
Build confidence in embracing your own needs and desires
You’re allowed to take up space in your own life - and I’m here to help you do it.
Ready to Start? Let’s Chat
Taking the first step toward therapy is a brave decision, and I’m here to make it as simple as possible. I offer a free 20-minute call so we can explore how I can support you and whether we’re a good fit.